http://parentingcoach.wordpress.com Because the toughest job doesn't come with a handbook. Mon, 19 May 2008 18:38:58 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 http://parentingcoach.wordpress.com/2008/03/03/what-is-grief/#comment-17 psychmum Mon, 19 May 2008 18:38:58 +0000 http://parentingcoach.wordpress.com/?p=6#comment-17 Sometimes it's helpful to view grief as an upward spiral where the "stages" are visited again, and sometimes often several times again but all the while not as bad as the first time, so they're moving upwards as they go round. I've found this a helpful picture for those who might think they weren't moving forward when they experience, say, anger again. I agree it's really necessary to involve children in expressing their grief and loss - so often parents try to protect them and it backfires. As a child therapist, I see the results of this choice. Sometimes it’s helpful to view grief as an upward spiral where the “stages” are visited again, and sometimes often several times again but all the while not as bad as the first time, so they’re moving upwards as they go round. I’ve found this a helpful picture for those who might think they weren’t moving forward when they experience, say, anger again. I agree it’s really necessary to involve children in expressing their grief and loss – so often parents try to protect them and it backfires. As a child therapist, I see the results of this choice.

]]> http://parentingcoach.wordpress.com/2008/05/19/on-graduation-and-launching/#comment-16 psychmum Mon, 19 May 2008 18:30:07 +0000 http://parentingcoach.wordpress.com/?p=11#comment-16 Good post! I don't think the loss ever goes away, but if their presence in the home has been fun and loving for the most part, then the loss is bearable. Knowing we have been good-enough mothers is worth taking pride in. When they later say (as one of mine did), 'Thank you for making us keep the kitchen and bathroom clean - some of my mates think the fairies do it overnight,' then my heart sings. They're going to be okay! Good post! I don’t think the loss ever goes away, but if their presence in the home has been fun and loving for the most part, then the loss is bearable. Knowing we have been good-enough mothers is worth taking pride in. When they later say (as one of mine did), ‘Thank you for making us keep the kitchen and bathroom clean – some of my mates think the fairies do it overnight,’ then my heart sings. They’re going to be okay!

]]> http://parentingcoach.wordpress.com/2008/03/22/the-art-of-ignoring/#comment-2 Ignoring Bad Behavior | Parenting Blog Sun, 23 Mar 2008 06:24:58 +0000 http://parentingcoach.wordpress.com/?p=8#comment-2 [...] I do the right thing? Should we ignore our children’s bad behavior? Tammy Daniele in Parenting Coach suggests doing so. However, she emphasizes that we should not ignore the CHILD but ignore the [...] [...] I do the right thing? Should we ignore our children’s bad behavior? Tammy Daniele in Parenting Coach suggests doing so. However, she emphasizes that we should not ignore the CHILD but ignore the [...]

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